“People rarely change…they alter their ways to obtain a greater benefit ~ S. Witherspoon, Ph.D.”
Oprah’s interview with Jennifer Hudson and her sister regarding her husband’s murder of their mother, brother, and nephew/son respectively brought Dr. Maya Angelou’s words to life:
“When someone shows you who they are…believe them.”
The idea that we can “change” him or her is futile, immature, and unrealistic. At the end of the day, people do exactly what they want to do. Sadly, her brother-in-law told her sister if she left the marriage, he’d kill them. Period. So many may ask did she not see this coming beforehand? Chances are, yes. Hudson said she had known him since 6th grade and knew then that something was amiss. She begged her sister not to marry him. But like many men and/or women who have lowered self esteem they believe, “He just needs love” or “She needs to be treated right” and he or she will “change”. NOPE! Only God is that good.
Crazy is as crazy does. This case proved true. So in the words of Iyanla Vanzant…
“When you see crazy coming, CROSS THE STREET!!”
…and at all cost