open season on Black boys/men…we got to get our families back intact…we must become whole, get over our Black Male/Female BS, make and maintain marriage as a value that is taught, guided and secured. We need Black Men to get their sons off the corners and be a presence in schools OLD SCHOOL STYLE!!! Enough! I’m not a mother, but for all Black mother’s who have sons, if their fathers are willing to father, allow them; we have to stop feminizing our boys and get them actively involved in manhood training without our interference. We must build communities with support and justice meted the way “we” used to do it back in the day – your child was my child. We protected each other and it has become painfully evident that anyone who “thinks” a Black boy/man is “suspicious” according to prejudice, racism and bigotry has the right to kill! This is a sad commentary; one that has never really gone away…endorsed, supported, and real. #pissed (Dad, I know you did not think it ladylike to use that word…but that’s how I feel)
Not gonna lie; this young lady had me cringing when she offered testimony at Trayvon Martin’s case during the course of the cross examination. Her demeanor screamed stereotype: under-educated, inarticulate, attitudinal Black woman. The bewildered attorney probably had more Paula Deen-esque remarks in his head; but I digress.
You see, this appeared to be Rachel Jeantel’s first time in public; for real. Proclaiming she doesn’t watch the news (ouch) and thus was unaware of the events surrounding Trayvon Martin’s demise, she probably had no idea on what to do next. Yet, while cross examination was strategized to make her look like an unstable liar, Rachel used her current cultural navigation skills in a legal world in which one inadvertent slip up could change her life for ever. For all intents in purpose the 19 year old was scared to death; but not moved.
In fact Rachel is quite intelligent. She handle the cross examination, though crudely, skillfully. The attorney’s slick handed approach seemed to frustrate more than intimidate. For the most part, she duly detected his disdain for who she is and how she came to the table; transparent, and unabashedly real.
So suffice it to say I feel a little more at ease regarding Rachel Jeantel. I pray at some point someone will work with her to enhance her educational skill set and upgrade her social graces. Because once this case is over, whether Trayvon’s alleged murderer is convicted and/or not, Rachel will have to learn how to navigate a brand new world quickly and swiftly; or she’ll be eaten alive.
Big Ups, Sis!
Since my blog post of African American Men We Need You I felt the need to reflect on some of the conversations I have had with so-called Black/African American men; particularly those who claim that they are unable (and in some cases) unwilling to understand so-called Black/African American women. Married, partnered, divorced and/or estranged, there were some critical areas that no matter how much we dialogue, some were earnestly interested in engaging their ladies; yet most could care less, were ready to leave, and were adamant that their women should just “fall in line”. Thus, African American Men We Need You…Now.
1. We admire your high expectations for us. When we are less than stellar please refrain from isolating – it’s hurtful.
2. We are women; a man’s world if often closed to us. Please allow us in – it makes us feel special.
3. We value consistency; when we hear “I will try to do better” we believe you – it makes us feel loved.
4. We like our opinion to be considered; don’t shut us out – it makes us feel dismissed.
5. We talk; “shutting us down” or telling us to “shut up” is disrespectful – it makes us feel small.
6. We need big, long hugs and embraces often; the world hands our asses to us, too – it makes us feel supported.
7. We revel off of gratitude; “Thank You”, “Proud of You”, and “Great Job” – it makes us feel empowered.
8. We desire exclusive relationships – NO, we do not just want to have “fun” – it makes us feel like whores.
9. We look forward to cooking for you and catering to you – it makes us feel FEMININE!
10. WE LOOOOVE SEX!!! WE GIVE IT FREELY IN A COMMITTED, MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE…ESPECIALLY WHEN AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN WORK ON 1-9! WE ARE WILLING TO MEET YOU 100%!
As always, not and indictment, just an observation…in love