Ladies, we’ve all made mistakes in relationships. Seemingly we’ve all had that the “one” that we lost all common sense and standards behind. We tried in vain to “love him” so much that he would finally “see” how good a woman we were. Some of us have used money, sex, begging, crying to help him get the point. Many women have actively participated in controlling relationships. Some have accepted behavior of a boy in a man’s body – an insecure male who justifies hitting, smacking, taking, belittling you to show how much he “loves” you. Isolated from family and friends, he acts like you’re the best thing that ever happened to him and that he’d “never hurt you” (RED FLAG). Then you are slowly but surely restricted from being yourself; while he does what he wants to do. Sadly, many women stay in these relationships WAY TOO LONG! Newsflash: This is EXACTLY who he is!!
The late great comedian and entertainer Flip Wilson would say on his groundbreaking “Flip Wilson Show”, What you see, is what you get! If a man offers chivalry, respect, and loving behavior, that’s who he is. Reliable, reciprocal, and respectful: that’s who he is. Is grounded spiritually in purpose, has a passion other than sex, and adds value to your life; that’s who he is.
These behaviors are often consistent with the man. Take note. Heed. Listen to the 6th sense God enables women with. Like to be dated and go places and he is reluctant to do so – he’s not going to change. Enjoy phone conversations and he always text – he’s not going to change. Have and uphold standard she fails to see the necessity in them – he’s not going to change. Don’t believe me?
A friend willingly participated in a “deal” with a married man who had 6 kids with his wife; 4 kids with a girlfriend, and 1 from a prior relationship. Barely divorced, she allowed this man to treat her accordingly and she figured “what the hell” I’ll have a child, too. The best educated and paid out of the bunch, he basically took over her life and her money; she sacrificed her career and her job for a “man” who could offer her absolutely nothing of worth. She tried to love him out of his dysfunction. Yet after 4 years and countless disrespectful acts she became angry because he was paying more attention to the 4-kid woman (who interestingly escaped to her Mother’s last year after being disrespected).
What you see is what you get…